Moms’ Secrets to a Truly Relaxing Vacation

Based on individual and collective personal experience, the following are some moms’ secrets to a truly relaxing vacation (and yes I realize these are internally contradictory, such is the nature of the thing!).  Please add your secrets in the comments below.

  1. recognize the distinctions between: family visits, family trips, and vacations
  2. leave your children behind
  3. bring your children and, depending on their ages, also bring: baby gates!, outlet covers, white noise machines, “loveys,” extra clothes and supplies, iPhone apps for kids, headphones and a portable DVD player, a babysitter or relatives who will babysit
  4. vacation with another family with children the same ages
  5. turn off and tune out from cell phones, smart phones, email, etc.
  6. leave a careful set of instructions so you don’t have to be available to answer questions or expend precious energy worrying about what you may have forgotten to say
  7. sign your Will and trust and legally name guardians for your children well before you start worrying about what to pack or what instructions to leave behind
  8. don’t over-schedule yourselves
  9. do schedule a massage!

Wishing you safe travels and happy memories!  Bula Bula!


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8 thoughts on “Moms’ Secrets to a Truly Relaxing Vacation

  1. One other thought – be flexible with family rules when you're on vacation with kiddos. It will make traveling a lot easier, and the kids will think it's lots of fun to do stuff that they never get to do at home. (Hence my daughter watching FOUR HOURS of Caillou on the 7 hour flight across the country…)


  2. Leave them with your husband and go with your best girlfriends for the weekend. THAT's relaxing. And what I plan on doing in April. Woot!

    However I am going to have to plan just the same to prep everything for hubs before I leave 😦


  3. I know a couple that was worried, it was immediately after 9/11, that should a disaster befall them while they were away their kids would lose both parents at once– so they booked separate flights. I wouldn't do it, but I get the levity of #7.


  4. While we lost our freedom to take vacations as easily or as often when we had our daughter, I've particularly enjoyed taking vacations with my parents again (and even with my wife's parents). I have great memories with my family from my childhood vacationing in Lake George, and now I get to create those memories for my child. It's also brought me closer to my parents and my in-laws. It may not be as relaxing as an alone vacation but it has it's own advantages.


  5. Yes, yes, yes, but I must say, the most relaxing vacation I've been on in the last 5 years (the duration of my motherhood so far) was a work conference I went to for a weekend. ALONE. Hello, Hilton hotel room, pay per view, and mini bar. I love you all. Of course, dragging my kids to Disney next week will rock too!


  6. Great tips! Yes, I always bring babysitter when my family have a vacation trip. I can't leave my ten years old daughter and my baby toddler so we have to bring a babysitter.


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